Making an impression can be an exhausting ordeal.
The need to impress is like a cancer in our society.
Whatever has happened to just being real?
My take on this is that we need to express rather than impress.
To express opens up communication, whereas trying to impress seems to close it down.
Let’s take entertaining for example.
So many women see entertaining as an obligation to impress the guests
and so a huge amount of pressure is loaded onto the hostess.
I’ve started seeing entertaining as a means of expressing myself and that opens the door
to being in real contact with the guest as opposed to being in a contest with them.
Trying to impress means it’s you against them.
Expressing yourself in your cooking, in the candles you light, the music you play is thrilling.
Laying a table to prepare a place for your guest as opposed to making them gasp at your extreme expertise
Consider what you love to eat and cook.
Consider an environment that makes you feel special,
then invite someone around (it might be a hot-dog picnic in the middle of the lounge to candlelight and Mozart).
Have some fun with it.
The worse meals I’ve had have been at homes where the heart of hospitality was not true.
The most uncomfortable evenings have been with people striving to impress and not being authentic.
It is better to eat a sandwich with a true friend, than a fillet steak in the home of someone who merely sees you as another victim to impress.
This is Tania Ahlfeldt and I’m into the art of expression!